Episode #11: Hi and welcome back to You Are the Magic Pill. I am so excited that you’re here with me today. I call this episode, don’t tell me what to do, because I don’t know about you, but when someone tells me what to do, I just don’t really like it. And I think that I know why I don’t like it, it’s because it triggers me a little bit. I think it’s because of my childhood and my upbringing. I was the youngest in my family, and so I was constantly told what to do, and I never really had to make a decision, because all my decisions were basically made for me. Throughout much of my life for me. I lacked the confidence to think that I could make a decision. I let other people guide me and live my life. I was just like this person going about and doing what people told me to do. So I think… Now, when people try to tell me what to do, I’m like, Oh yeah, I don’t like that.

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IN THIS EPISODE:

•   Basically, I got married at 19 because I didn’t know who I was. I didn’t believe in myself. I bought into the fact that I would never make it out of my own. That  I would never be anything. And that this is what I should do. (3:00)

•    We have these experiences that happen in our lives, and then when we make those choices and we have things happen, then that allows us to have that contrast and then we’re like, Okay, I’m not going to to do that again, I learned what I needed to learn. (4:48)

•    If you just kinda let other people guide you, let other people determine your future, take a pause and think about that and really feel what’s going on in your body, and if it feels right, that’s great. But if it doesn’t feel right, and you feel like you’ve been inserted into somebody else’s life or into a job, or into whatever it is you’re doing, that you feel like that it doesn’t feel like you belong, or it doesn’t feel like what was meant for you. Then take a pause and think about it. (7:39)

•     So we all need to just go within, you need to search within your own heart and go that path, go that narrow path, and that is where you find your bliss, that’s what you’ll find your happiness. (9:08)

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Episode #10. Hi, and welcome back to You Are the Magic Pill. Today I wanted to talk to you about my marriage. I was married for 21 years, that’s a very long time. And I don’t know about you, if you’re married or if you think about getting married, or you’re in a relationship, maybe this message will help you. I wanted to write this book, I titled it. Forever is a really long time, what they don’t tell you, Because honestly, when I was 24, when I got married, the second time, I’ll have to tell you about the first time on another podcast, the second time I got married, I have to say, I had no idea. I just knew I wanted to find my soulmate, I knew I wanted to get married, have babies. All of that. But did I actually know that? I was told that that’s what I should do. And it’s just out there, just constant messages to guide us into that direction… go get married, have children, you’ll be happy they said. And no, I’m not going to paint it all as bad, I’m not that kind of person, but I will say that I got married rather quickly and here’s what I learned from that experience.

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IN THIS EPISODE:

•    And I have this question, I’ve often thought about this and was really funny as I wrote this four years ago when I was still married, and I understand that more today than I did back then, I wrote, does it mean until someone actually dies, or could it mean if you feel the life sucked out of you, like you are dead, and I think that that’s what it means. (3:34)

•    I just knew I had to get married and then one day, start a family. I had no idea what that really meant. I do know now. And so I think when you’re on this journey, make sure to listen to that inner voice, if you notice red flags, pay attention, pay attention to those red flags, if you feel it’s the right direction to go, then go for it because it’s part of your journey. (5:51)

•    It’s going to work out in the end. All things work out the way that they should. And if you go along your life and you realize that you know that everything is going to work out exactly as it should in your life, then you can have a greater piece and happiness. (6:33)

•   And when you become aware of that and you see that all things are not about just having that relationship in your life forever, then you realize that you’re just learning from that person, and then you can see all those things and go through that process of becoming whole yourself. And that’s another episode to get into more of that process. But just to introduce that to you, that that’s what we’re here to do, is to become whole and to come to love ourselves so we can reflect that back into the world and change our reality together. (7:48)

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