Episode #49: Welcome to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria. In today’s episode, I am thrilled to have my bestie Richele Batt-Kramer as a guest once again. Richele is a highly respected dating and relationship coach who runs the Coaching Closet. Together, we delve into our personal histories of relationships and share our experiences that have helped shape us into the individuals we are today. We firmly believe that every moment in life is significant, and it’s essential to embrace the journey and cherish every experience, good or bad. Join us as we explore the value of learning from past relationships and the importance of living life to the fullest.

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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

0:03 Thanks for tuning in to You Are the Magic Pill.

0:06 If you are ready to realize that you are the magic pill, then come on a heroic journey with me to remember who you truly are to activate that power found within.

0:17 Hi, and welcome back to You Are the Magic Pill.

0:21 Thank you so much for tuning in with me today.

0:23 I’m super excited because I have my friend Richelle with me today.

0:29 Hi, Richelle.

0:29 Hey, girl.

0:30 Hey, I’m so excited to be here with you in the big D.

0:35 That’s right.

0:36 Oh, my God, girl is in Houston.

0:38 Meet the big D so awesome.

0:40 Like this time we’ve been together a few times and you’ve been to Houston in my closet and we’ve recorded severally and been together like severally.

0:51 And now I’m here in your home, your gorgeous home in Dallas.

0:55 That’s it.

0:55 And so reunited and then it feels so good.

1:02 Ok.

1:03 I’m, I’m not a singer.

1:04 I’m more of a dancer as you know.

1:06 Oh, well, you know, I’m a singer and a dancer.

1:08 I know you love to dance.

1:11 It’s, it’s all, it’s so lovely.

1:13 It’s so lovely.

1:14 I just had to set the stage for everyone because Victoria is sitting here drinking out of a mason jar and in her gorgeous living room with all her flowers and candles lit and of course there’s a mower going.

1:27 Come on, dude, I want go take a break.

1:30 I made this best cup of coffee for me.

1:32 I’m tired today after driving up here.

1:34 But yeah, we are here together.

1:36 It’s been a little over a year and I distinctly remember the last episode we recorded together.

1:40 Oh, do you tell?

1:42 Well, I had just been through a massive break up but I think it was Valentine’s Day.

1:46 It was not pretty breaking up.

1:49 It’s hard to do.

1:50 But now we can have a lot to do.

1:53 I was like, ok, let’s just talk about the lessons you can learn and the breaking up is necessary to do.

1:58 Oh, yeah.

1:59 We were just talking about breakdowns, lead to breakthroughs and that’s one thing that my clients go through all the time.

2:05 Oh, my God.

2:06 You’ve had some changes in your life too recently.

2:09 But I mean, I met the love of my life after that break up.

2:12 Awesome.

2:13 I had no idea what the future held for me and we’re about to celebrate one year together.

2:18 We got married after 95 days, which is insane.

2:21 And I got to be in the wedding.

2:24 I know.

2:25 Yeah, that was fun and cold.

2:27 I thought I was actually going to die.

2:28 Did I tell you this?

2:30 I don’t know if I told you this.

2:31 But while I was standing out there shivering half to death, I was clenching my teeth.

2:36 I was shaking so severely because I get cold in like 65.

2:40 You know, and it was, what was it, like 50.

2:44 No, no, no.

2:44 It had to be way low.

2:46 It just drop so much.

2:47 It was so low.

2:48 It felt like 30.

2:49 Ok.

2:50 So I’m standing there and I was like, thinking in my mind, I’m like, would anybody notice if I just took off and ran into the building?

3:00 I’d be like, oh, what is she doing now?

3:03 At least three times.

3:05 And yes, I actually did that.

3:07 I’m like, girl, you can’t do that.

3:08 I had to talk myself down.

3:10 I was like, you can’t do that.

3:11 Thank you.

3:12 That the love is real because like that day was insane.

3:15 It was glorious.

3:16 It was raining all around the venue and then we moved everything inside and the day before it was so gorgeous.

3:22 I know.

3:22 And then that cool friend came and it was like, ok, everything’s inside and we thought it was going to rain and then they’re like 20 minutes before, but your wedding was so gorgeous.

3:31 Oh my God.

3:31 It was always worth it to do it outside.

3:33 So I’m like, I mean, it was, you can’t think about the people and I don’t want to make you feel badly about that.

3:39 I just thought it was funny.

3:40 That I had the actual thought of running away.

3:42 I would have never done that or would I, I don’t know.

3:44 I didn’t, I feel like you’ll never have a runaway bride to be the runaway bride bride.

3:49 I was like, wait, where is she going?

3:51 I was so thankful that my dress had pockets.

3:53 I was my hands in the pockets.

3:54 But anyway, got one hand in my pocket.

3:58 The other one’s giving up peace out, peace out.

4:01 So yeah, we got married in 95 days and then had a wedding.

4:04 That was so awesome.

4:05 I’m so happy for you.

4:06 Y’all are perfect together.

4:07 You have a lot of joy, which is your favorite thing to say.

4:11 Yes and y’all are great.

4:13 So it took you a little bit of a journey and a process to get there and I don’t know why this popped in my head.

4:20 This is kind of negative, but some people might judge you for getting married.

4:24 So I got the hate and the love, ok?

4:28 I was just thinking about this.

4:30 I think it was yesterday or today.

4:31 It was like you find out who your friends are when you’re going through a real tragedy.

4:36 Like divorce.

4:37 People always say they find out who your friends are and then you find out who your friends are when you do something kind of like off culture norms, like very, really fast or you’re really happy or something.

4:48 You know, when you have something really spectacular like that in your life.

4:51 It’s not, it’s not the narrative you’re not supposed to be.

4:56 You don’t, no one really does that.

4:58 And I was like, thinking about that, I was like, you find out like people are like, no, no, like get in line, get, get back within the matrix, you know, kind of being as like you really find out people like, yeah, because people don’t necessarily come out and say it’s kind of like they give you the side eye kind of thing or you hear from other people, they’re saying this about you, you need to like, you need to kind of keep it on the down low.

5:22 You need to kind of, you know, whatever.

5:24 It’s different.

5:24 It’s weird.

5:25 But I’m like, we’re just like, we are both totally in, we both totally new and we are doing this.

5:30 We waited our whole lives for this.

5:32 We’re 40 because I went in, right.

5:34 It was crazy.

5:35 And I never really understood that before because I had never experienced it before.

5:39 I wanted to experience it before.

5:40 And I thought, oh, this must be what it is.

5:43 But no, that one, he’s the only guy in the world.

5:47 Not like no, because when you know, he’s the right guy, you know, not the right guy because he had a four right wonder have I been struck by lighting?

5:56 I’m not sure.

5:58 Oh, hell no.

5:58 Like if you’ve been struck by lightning, you know, So, that’s what it is.

6:02 Right.

6:02 It’s like you don’t have to wonder.

6:04 So that’s the feeling, you know, that I got married.

6:07 My first marriage when I was 19, I wait, wait, wait, that’s the first one.

6:12 And then my second one I got married when I was 24.

6:14 The 19 didn’t last at all because that was not even meant to be.

6:17 But the second one I met my ex and we got married within nine months.

6:23 So we met, moved to Austin within like a few months.

6:27 And then, we got married in all, within nine months.

6:30 So I’ve been there and done that too and some people might say, well, where did that end up?

6:36 Or?

6:36 How’d that go?

6:37 I’m like, well, it actually went really well because I was married for 21 years.

6:41 Was it all wonderful and perfect?

6:43 No.

6:44 Is any relationship?

6:45 No.

6:45 But do I have lots of good memories?

6:48 Yes.

6:48 And do I have two beautiful daughters?

6:50 Absolutely.

6:51 That I would never ever trade any of those experiences for what I have now.

6:56 So it was totally worth it.

6:57 And to me that’s equal success no matter if it lasted a lifetime or 21 years or if it lasts two years, one year, whatever it is, the experience that you’re having and you’re living in the moment and you’re just going and you’re following your heart.

7:11 And I think that’s beautiful.

7:12 I think it’s beautiful and I think that the people that have an issue with it is because they don’t know how to let go and follow their own heart.

7:18 Right.

7:19 And maybe they wish that they would do that.

7:22 Maybe they can’t even see that, but it’s their projection that is coming on to you as judgment, but whatever.

7:28 That’s right.

7:29 What I’ve learned is that I’ve really have learned, like, probably 97.5% not to take things personal.

7:37 That’s pretty, where did you get that statistic?

7:39 Do you do in your head?

7:41 Just?

7:41 Wow, it’s pretty impressive to be honest because I’m like, wait, what was the percentage?

7:45 97.5%?

7:46 Ok.

7:47 Got it because I do still take things personal sometimes and I get my feelings hurt because I’m a human being.

7:51 Well, of course, we’re all learning.

7:52 We’re not like 100% like enlightened like that, you know, we’re in the process, right?

7:57 But you know, other people, they don’t see us as we are, they see us as they are, right?

8:02 They see us through their own lens, right?

8:04 Their own experiences and their own knowledge and wisdom.

8:06 And so it’s like, ok, if you want to see me that way, that’s fine.

8:10 So it’s like I try to take it personal because oh yeah, because you don’t understand, I mean, they don’t know, they don’t know, I forgive them for, they know not what they do.

8:18 They don’t know and, and we don’t know sometimes like when we’re having these thoughts, we don’t know either because we’re only looking from our lands.

8:26 So, yeah.

8:27 So it’s like, ok, I mean, we’re all just doing what we think is best at the time.

8:31 I look back, you know, 2, 3, 4 or five years ago and think, wow, I would make completely different decisions now because I’m a different, I’m different.

8:39 I’m wiser.

8:39 I’m, you know, hopefully we’re all growing it a certain time.

8:42 But, you know, you just have to follow your heart.

8:45 I think it’s really, really smart to be that way.

8:48 So, yeah, I think as far as your relationship goes, your marriage goes, there are, sometimes it’s like, I mean, you can’t go back and say I would have done things differently because would you have?

8:56 No, no, at that time you probably wouldn’t have and you don’t have that opportunity.

9:01 And do you regret becoming the person through that experience that you are now?

9:05 No, of course not.

9:07 So, it’s like, ok, that relationship is not.

9:09 I don’t like to look at it as a failure.

9:11 I like, no, not at all.

9:12 Completed relationships that you can learn lessons from.

9:16 And so people are living in way too much shame over.

9:19 Oh, I have a failed marriage and that you get to the societal teaching that so if we can just look at like, you know, these are lessons we can learn and use them as building blocks to become our best selves.

9:30 That’s like, so much freedom.

9:32 So, yeah.

9:33 Yeah.

9:33 So, that life and be in the moment more and let go of the outcome if it’s going to last forever.

9:38 Right.

9:38 Absolutely.

9:39 Well, tell me about yourself and like the last year, what’s happened in your life?

9:44 The different changes.

9:44 I know you got some coming up.

9:46 What do you want to share how much time we got?

9:49 No, I don’t know.

9:50 I mean, I’ve been in the depths of hell for a while, but I’ve also had some joyful moments, but I’m about to do a series over a bunch of episodes about the journey.

9:59 But yeah, I just, I’ve gone through a lot of emotions and had a lot of breakthroughs and experiences and, you know, I’m still really happy and where I’m at, you know, now I’m happy tomorrow.

10:11 I’ll not be sad, but I, I’m happy and, you know, I hold on to that moment when I’m happy.

10:16 I really enjoy it and I feel it and then I know I’m learning the process of when I’m sad.

10:22 That that’s ok too.

10:23 That, that’s part of the process and to be sad and to love that part too.

10:28 And so that’s what I’m excited to share about in the upcoming episodes.

10:32 But I’m having a new job exploring that, going in a new direction, going to learn some new things that I needed to learn like 20 years ago.

10:40 But, hey, don’t live in regret ok.

10:42 Don’t live in shame.

10:43 Like there’s that shame voice.

10:45 Right.

10:45 I should have learned that.

10:47 I should have, I hate when people should all over me and, oh my God, shit all over ourselves.

10:51 I shit in your pants.

10:53 I should, I did, I did.

10:56 I’m shameful now, 12 years ago, I’m in the same boat as you with that because I’m going back to school.

11:01 Oh, yeah.

11:01 That’s all, it was more like three years ago, but I’m going back to get my master’s degree and that’s all I can become a therapist.

11:07 But, yeah, girl, I think there’s no time like the present.

11:10 So who cares about all that?

11:12 I should have done this back then because you wouldn’t have, I wouldn’t have, I still, I still don’t just to get, no, I’m in the, I’m definitely in the process.

11:21 I’m gonna finish my, I’m working on a life coach certification and I’m so happy about it.

11:26 I started reading about it and like, actually doing it, like taking that first step of doing it.

11:30 It’s the hardest thing for me and on the face of this planet now, I’m going to say it’s the easiest thing for me to ever do is to take that first step and to do what I actually want to do and to believe that I actually can’t do it like I can do it, I can do anything I want and no matter what my story, old story was and so, but I started to read it.

11:49 It’s called live strategies code.

11:51 It’s so perfect for me.

11:52 And you’re going to understand why?

11:53 Because it talks about like the left brain, right brain hemisphere, two sides to the story kind of thing.

11:58 It’s not hilarious because that’s like the voice of reason.

12:02 And I always see two sides to the story, two sides to the coin, two sides to everything and queen of that.

12:08 I know.

12:08 Right.

12:09 So how funny that I got guided to that particular certification.

12:14 It’s not a coincidence, you know what?

12:16 It’s crazy that we do, we put off things.

12:20 I saw this meme or something about like, oh wow.

12:23 I’ve been putting off that one chore for like six months and it took me 15 minutes to do it.

12:27 Yeah, because it seems daunting or it seems scary or it seems whatever it’s like in whatever we have a block about it.

12:33 Yeah.

12:34 It’s like, oh, wow.

12:35 Like this is actually could be enjoyable, you know, and then it’s like whenever you’re doing it, like what we’re talking about and then just release that.

12:43 It took you that long to do it and just be glad that you’re actually doing it now.

12:46 And that way you can just fully step into the present moment and then get it done and move on and be who you came to be, which reminds me about this thing.

12:54 This is so crazy.

12:56 I went to get my lashes done this morning.

12:58 I told you and I was supposed to go on Saturday, but I didn’t feel well.

13:01 So I canceled it and then I went, she had an opening this morning and this happened two years ago, the same thing I had a bluey appointment that I was going to go to see her about a year and a half ago.

13:12 And I went and then I opened up my eyes and I saw this most beautiful lady.

13:18 I remember this.

13:19 I remember this.

13:19 Yes.

13:20 Yes.

13:20 I saw this most beautiful lady and I thought to myself, wow, she is so beautiful.

13:25 And she’s a life coach and she has a podcast.

13:28 She’s so beautiful.

13:30 I just think she’s just amazing.

13:33 And I’ve told my boyfriend that Chris and he was like, I bet she thought the same thing about you, which I thought was so adorable.

13:40 And another time I ran into her and then we almost met up, we set up an appointment.

13:45 I had another time that I woke up and she was there in the last place she was there at the same time.

13:51 Flukey.

13:52 Ok.

13:52 And then we set up an appointment to meet and then her husband surprised her with Cozumel trip and then we set up another appointment and then we just didn’t meet this morning.

14:00 I went, opened my eyes and that lady was sitting there.

14:04 Oh my gosh.

14:05 Ok.

14:05 So are you going to meet her?

14:07 And I said, well, we have to meet and she said, yes, we do here.

14:12 We have to me.

14:13 Ok.

14:14 So there’s like I said, there’s no, oh wait.

14:15 Oh yeah.

14:16 But let me just tell you what the reflection is on that.

14:18 That is me.

14:20 That is me.

14:20 Like you are supposed to step into that.

14:22 Yes.

14:23 And, and now that you’ve started this life coaching journey, she’s got time known.

14:28 It’s just like right time is, is now, right.

14:31 Right.

14:31 The vortex.

14:32 I’ve had it in the vortex this whole time.

14:34 And now I’m actually stepping into that power and she showed up again.

14:39 So each time I step into that power, she shows up.

14:42 Isn’t that so awesomely?

14:43 You, you just kind of manifested her back into your life.

14:46 And so now it’s time like you just have to know like this is that, that’s me, it is my destiny.

14:51 I can do this.

14:52 So stay in that high, right?

14:53 You know, like I already believe that I can and I believe that I am and everybody can do that, which is so awesome and that’s what you’re doing.

15:02 And you know, it all goes back to following your bliss, following what’s in your true heart and like, you know, your true hearts desire.

15:10 And just like when you, you met Micah, you long to get married, you long to have that relationship.

15:16 You wanted to find your soulmate, you wanted to find your partner.

15:20 That was like your mission and you didn’t want to settle, then, you know, you went through the process.

15:25 So what people don’t see on the other side is that you did all the work, you went through the process of calling in the world, you did all of that and then you may have showed up same thing, just like, wow, that’s so cool.

15:40 Yeah, that’s what people don’t know, is like, well, I actually coach the program in the one.

15:45 So, you know, this, but I know that we’re going to put this out on my podcast and your so like, it’s a process of releasing old toxic ties and soul ties and resentment in the past and learning why, you know, you might have been sucker.

15:59 And so that’s the process and then like, setting a very bold intention of where you’re going.

16:04 And from that you use the law of attraction to walk into the future that you want for yourself.

16:10 And like a lot of people just follow on social media and they see like, oh, she just met this guy and married him in three months, but you don’t understand this work has been going on for like three or four years that I’ve been doing.

16:21 So, it’s not like it just happened, you know, like you see these, I’m into like, you know, seeing the memes and things.

16:28 It’s like people say, oh, she’s so lucky, like, and they don’t feel the work you put in for you know, the blood sweat and tears and it’s emotional work becoming a coach.

16:36 At least the program I went through, like, you have to go through the program yourself with a peer coach, with mentor coaches and like, you’re actually going through the personal development yourself.

16:45 So you’re going through it yourself and changing and growing and then you get to become certified.

16:51 It’s not like you just, you know, take a 20 minute course and you know, they slap you a patient.

16:56 So I mean, I, I was telling someone about that the other day and I was like, man, I thought, you know, I’m gonna take this course and it’s like a nine month course that I’ve taken two of them.

17:05 I actually one of them twice because I didn’t finish the first time because COVID and all that I remember.

17:09 Yeah, but I go through it and I was like, God, I didn’t think I was going to sit here and cry and like, actually, I mean, but you have to go through it.

17:15 So all of that led up to me meeting him and then he on the other side of it was also trying to, he was manifest me and he was going through leadership skill development and, and all this stuff.

17:27 And the first time I walked into his apartment, I see these vision boards on the wall and that’s awesome.

17:31 I did a TikTok on it and he had a huge picture of a diamond engagement ring on one of them.

17:35 And I said, oh my God, he’s like, yeah, I’ve been praying for you and wanting to find you for years.

17:43 Like, yeah, blown away.

17:45 Like, what guy has this?

17:47 Like, we’re in total alignment.

17:50 I mean, I knew it before I even went in there but then I go in there.

17:52 It’s just confirmation after confirmation.

17:54 Yeah.

17:54 And then when, you know, you know, yeah, it goes back to that when, you know, you know, and, and it’s just like anything in life too.

18:00 It’s like we all, like, see all these people that are successful but like, they go through so much to get there and I’m guilty of that too.

18:06 I compare myself and I’m like, they have all these things.

18:09 I never think that they didn’t earn it or whatever.

18:11 But I just think, you know, they have all these things and like, I can never do that, you know, I think I could never do that.

18:16 And it’s like, yeah, I could, if I got my ass up and got self disciplined and just f*cking did it, you know what I mean?

18:22 It’s like, yeah.

18:24 Yeah, you actually can.

18:25 I’m the only one that’s keeping me from doing whatever it is in my heart.

18:29 And that goes for anyone, whether they want to find their loved one, they got to do the work, whether they want to get into shape, whether they want to lose weight whether they want to get a certification, whether they want to become whatever they want to become, right.

18:41 They got to do the work, you know, but it’s not like total work though.

18:44 So I don’t want to say that it’s like total work.

18:45 It’s the mental work.

18:47 It’s the mental work.

18:49 Not necessarily the physical.

18:51 Obviously, if you want to get buff, you gotta, like, you gotta, what is that?

18:55 Like, I won’t do bump.

18:57 You will, you know, you got to do the work but work out.

19:01 You really have to do the mental part before you can actually take the step to go work out.

19:07 Yes, I remember John Maxwell saying like if you look at a tree, you may not be able to chop it down in one day.

19:13 But if you take an ax and every day, you can like five times like eventually that trees will fall over.

19:19 And I was like like that is it like every day adds up.

19:24 Yeah, you just commit to yourself, you’re doing the thing and like go the outcome like it’s not that simple.

19:29 Feel the feelings, get your vibration up, imagine it and connect those two and you will see it, you will start to take inspired action, you will start to see the synchronicities, you will start to see that.

19:42 But getting there is the tricky part and it’s tricky, tricky.

19:46 And so it’s like, you know, people just have to also understand that it’s a process and not everybody can just let it go.

19:53 I swear, I’m like, I want to say let it go.

19:55 At first I was like, is it all nineties?

19:58 That’s it.

19:59 No, no.

20:01 Yeah.

20:01 I mean, it’s just compassion, just have compassion.

20:04 Let’s and mainly compassion for yourself, right?

20:06 Like, yeah, compassion for, for yourself and compassion and patience too.

20:10 And that’s the part I struggle with is like, OK, it’s not happening like today and especially with manifesting love.

20:16 I think a lot of just being in the singles scene, whatever, for a good amount of time.

20:22 I see that a lot like patience, you know, and I’m like, I tell people like God is never late and the timing has to be just right for you to manifest that for you to come together with that other person, they may be out of a relationship, they may be letting things go and you’re not emotionally ready.

20:39 Like Micah and I have talked about like, we would not have been right for each other five years ago, right at all.

20:44 But he had to learn things.

20:45 I had to learn things and, and we had to come together.

20:48 And so the patience part is the hardest for me and even in business and coaching and like, I wouldn’t have been ready for a graduate degree any other time in my life.

20:59 Otherwise you would have done it otherwise I would have done it and maybe you weren’t ready to go, you know, become a life coach is, well, I was that, yeah, I wouldn’t have understood it.

21:06 Yeah.

21:06 And so now it’s like the perfect time.

21:08 So you had to just be, like, all right, I had to be patient with myself, patient with the process.

21:13 Step into it.

21:14 For me.

21:14 That’s the hardest part.

21:15 I am not a patient person.

21:16 I never, I never have been.

21:19 Yeah.

21:19 Well, because it’s like we’re trained to have instant gratification.

21:22 You know, if it takes too long, then, ok, move on to the next thing.

21:25 Right?

21:25 But even as a kid I remember going, are we there yet?

21:27 Are we there yet?

21:28 How many more seconds?

21:29 We drove our parents crazy and we took our road trips and I’m like, oh, I’m so sorry, I’m like that.

21:35 Hey, well, that’s their fault for taking so many rides a kid.

21:38 Right.

21:39 Yeah, that’s difficult.

21:40 But yeah, there’s so much that we have to go through in order to get where we are today.

21:46 And it’s just I’m really trying to work on learning to enjoy all of it.

21:51 Yes.

21:51 Enjoy all of it.

21:53 The present moment.

21:54 Right.

21:54 Right.

21:54 Enjoy right now.

21:56 Right.

21:56 And I love that humanity is waking up to that and a lot of people are discovering the truth, which is fantastic because we kind of need that to survive as humanity.

22:06 Right.

22:06 Yeah.

22:07 Like enjoy the present moment.

22:10 Love where you are.

22:11 Enjoy the journey.

22:12 That’s all we have and we’re never gonna get there.

22:14 We’re never going to get there.

22:15 There’s always going to be some kind of struggle that we’re having.

22:19 So just learn to get through the different things.

22:23 Like you’re never going to reach perfection.

22:25 Like I think people think, oh, one day I’m never gonna have struggles and then everything is going to be hunky dory.

22:30 Definitely not this side of eternity.

22:33 Never.

22:34 I don’t think so.

22:35 Polarity is here.

22:36 Yeah.

22:37 For right now, polarity is here and we got to all like go through it together and just work through it together and don’t worry so much about what everybody else is doing, worry about what you’re doing and follow your own dreams and don’t waste your life.

22:50 Yes.

22:50 That’s the message to myself.

22:52 Girl.

22:52 Get up off your butt and don’t waste your life because dang you 50 and I’m like, I’m 50.

23:00 What?

23:01 You better shut your mouth, girl like, right.

23:03 How do you get here so fast?

23:05 Yeah, that’s a whole other episode.

23:06 Oh, right.

23:07 That’s the title.

23:08 That is, that is.

23:10 Thank you so much for joining me today, Richelle.

23:12 I had so much fun here in my house.

23:14 That’s so cool.

23:15 I love sitting here with the Tascam just looking at you, you’re looking at me and we’re just sharing our stories and our journey and our processing and how we’ve had compassion on ourselves and all the things that we’ve learned.

23:26 And now we’re so happy and then sometimes we’re not happy, but we’re still like enjoying all of it.

23:30 And we know that there’s a lot more to come and that there’s a lot that we’re here to do.

23:36 And the biggest thing is just to have that joy.

23:39 Absolutely.

23:40 I loved it.

23:40 Loved being here with you.

23:41 Thank you so much until we meet again.

23:44 All right.

23:45 See you next time.

23:46 Thank you for joining me today on You Are the Magic Pill.

23:50 My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling better about yourself, inspired, activated and ready to swallow your fears to realize your dreams.

24:01 I would be honored if you would leave me a five star review over in iTunes each week.

24:05 I’ll randomly choose one person to win some.

24:08 You Are the Magic Pill swag.

24:10 Make sure you add your name to the review and I’ll reach out to you if you’re the winner, I really appreciate you spending your time with me today.

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Episode #48: Welcome to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria, thank you so much for joining me, I’m excited to start a new season with you. Today I want to share something that I wrote a few months ago. I was going through a tough time, I was getting really depressed and I this just flowed out of me. It was the wildest thing, when I was writing what I’m about to read to you, I was typing it out on my phone and it was just coming down, one word at a time, super fast. And then it started to slow down, and I could see the word almost in my mind and then I would hear it, drop in like, the dog ran down the road, it dropped one word at a time and I was just seeing it happen while I was doing it. It was so cool, I have never done that before. But the message was something that I needed to hear, and perhaps you too.

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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

0:03 Thanks for tuning in to You Are the Magic Pill.

0:06 If you are ready to realize that you are the magic pill, then come on a heroic journey with me to remember who you truly are to activate that power found within.

0:18 Hi and welcome back to You Are the Magic Pill.

0:23 I am sharing with you today.

0:26 Something that I actually wrote a while ago.

0:30 I wrote this, I think about three months ago.

0:33 I’m not for sure, but something like that, I was going through a really tough time again.

0:41 I was getting really depressed and I wrote this because it just flowed out of me.

0:48 It was the wildest thing when I was writing what I’m about to read to you.

0:52 It was like so hard to explain, but I was like, just writing it so fast and I was one thumbing it.

0:59 That’s how I text with one thumb.

1:01 How do you text?

1:02 I text with one thumb.

1:04 My boyfriend thinks that’s so strange, but I’m actually really fast.

1:08 I’m probably faster than some two thumb textures anyway, that’s what I do.

1:13 I’m a one thumb and I was just going so fast writing it, typing it out on my phone, on my notes and it was just coming down like one word at a time super fast and then it started to slow down.

1:27 Then I just started to like, see the word almost in my mind and then I would write it out.

1:33 Not really see it, I guess, hear it, I would hear it and it would just like, drop in like, you know, the dog ran down the road, you know, it just like, dropped one word at a time and I was just like, seeing it happen while I was doing it.

1:50 And it was so cool.

1:51 I have ever done that before.

1:52 That’s what I call a major download alert.

1:57 And it was awesome.

1:58 And I can’t wait to do that again.

2:00 Kind of fell out of the zone after that.

2:02 It’s been quite a while since I’ve been back on here.

2:05 And so I’m happy to be back with you, share my message and I hope that this helps you.

2:12 I often struggle with getting lost in my mind and sometimes not finding my way back for quite some time.

2:20 It feels like I don’t know if you ever get like that, but it seems like I often do over the last, like my whole life anyway.

2:30 So here we go.

2:31 I’m just gonna read what I wrote.

2:33 You know, I like to do that.

2:34 So here it goes.

2:37 Do you ever get lost in your mind?

2:39 So lost that you are not sure you will find your way back.

2:44 I get so lost in my thoughts of, why am I here?

2:48 Why did I do nothing with my life?

2:50 Why can’t I do something now?

2:53 Why do I feel so sad?

2:55 Why do I struggle every single day?

2:58 And why does my life not represent what’s in my true heart’s desire?

3:03 Why do I know what I need to do?

3:06 But yet I can’t seem to do it.

3:08 Why can’t I just f*cking do it?

3:11 I get mad that I’m not who I need to be or think I should be.

3:15 I get so upset when I think about the time I’ve wasted, when I compare my worth to the money I see in my reality then it’s definitely of the same value.

3:25 I feel so unworthy.

3:27 But yet I know I’m not deep down.

3:30 I know I have value and worth, but I can’t seem to hold on to that feeling for very long.

3:36 I spiral down to the depths of hell.

3:39 I know I’m in control but am I really f*ck?

3:43 I want to say enough is enough and I actually do.

3:47 But then here comes f*cking gloom and doom again.

3:51 When I think about myself as a child.

3:53 Then all I really remember is the bad sh*t.

3:56 The trauma that little girl was so full of anger.

4:00 I always felt like I didn’t belong and I still feel this way and I don’t get it this is making me sad to read this.

4:07 Now, honestly, I’m little teary eyed because, oh, yeah, I’m still working through some stuff here.

4:14 Is this a program that I can’t override?

4:18 Is it something that I can’t say enough is enough?

4:21 Do you ever feel this lost?

4:23 I’m not the only one many have this control over our minds sometimes.

4:28 I think who might be the controller of what pours into my mind and system.

4:33 I try to flood out the unwanted thoughts with the desired thoughts but seem to fail more often than not.

4:39 I’m like that crab trying to get out but I keep falling back down.

4:43 Oh Man, comparison is the death of me every single f*cking day.

4:48 And that is like so true.

4:51 Comparison is the total death of me.

4:55 I see others on social media living their best life and being so amazing and I’m just sitting here being nothing and I just think damn it, why do I let you kill me comparison?

5:08 Like why do I let you kill me?

5:11 That’s the question of the f*cking day.

5:13 I seriously want you to stop.

5:15 It’s not right for you to continually tell me sh*t things that you have to stop, stop torture and humanity.

5:22 You don’t own us anymore.

5:25 I felt this way my entire life and I’m really just realizing it, it’s like a roller coaster ride.

5:32 I’m up, then I’m down, then I’m up, then I’m down.

5:35 Do you ever feel this way?

5:37 I always ask myself, how do I make it stop?

5:41 How do I make that fucking voice in my head?

5:45 Shut up already.

5:47 How I’m drifting away slowly into the negative voice that haunts me day in and day out.

5:54 Please go away.

5:57 You do not serve me anymore.

5:59 I am the one who is in charge.

6:01 You are no longer welcome here.

6:03 So please go away, go away because you make me feel so terribly.

6:09 But you did do your job.

6:12 And for that, I thank you.

6:14 You allowed me to feel sorrow, sadness, depression, hopelessness, and all kinds of yucky sh*t.

6:20 Now, when the happy comes back to me, then I’ll be so thankful to allow it in the funny thing is I’m so grateful for everything in my life, the good, the bad, the ugly, but it doesn’t mean that the suffering has not been painful.

6:35 We all have some kind of suffering that is part of the program, part of being human or the mind is a powerful thing they say and they are right.

6:43 But the cool thing is each one of us is more powerful than the mind.

6:49 Our thoughts are not always our thoughts and you can become aware of your true thoughts.

6:55 When you do a body check, a body check is where you can determine how you are feeling.

7:00 Is your energy low or high.

7:03 My subconscious mind is constantly pouring in negative sh*it even though I truly don’t want it like I don’t want it to like I don’t, I’m like, stop already.

7:14 I said, go away.

7:15 I think it’s called like a generational curse.

7:18 It’s my choice if I break the curse or not.

7:21 It’s your choice too.

7:22 I often wonder if everyone had the feelings of hopelessness like I do sometimes when I first heard Jeremiah 29 11, a long time ago, my soul felt it.

7:33 That particular Bible verse made me tear up and cry.

7:36 I get why now for I know the plans I have for you plans to give you hope and a future when I can disconnect from what I was taught about myself, like when I meditate or go into nature or doing something that I love to do, I get connected to God, then all the hopelessness falls away.

8:00 It’s in those times that I realize I am way more than I thought I am made in the image of God.

8:07 And with my own imagination, I can create the images that I really want to see in my reality.

8:14 It’s through the visualization, meditation, whatever you wanna call it in my mind, when I’m in control, that allows the beauty within so that I can feel it too.

8:27 And then I connect those two and I can manifest that in my reality, I take my power back.

8:34 But sometimes I fall back into the negative thoughts that haunt me.

8:38 I go deep down again.

8:40 And I think how did I get here again when I know the truth?

8:45 It’s because I need to be disciplined, know thyself, master thyself, become a disciple to myself, just like anything in life, whether it’s working out, eating healthier or shifting your mindset.

8:57 It all takes discipline.

8:59 And that decision to become discipline is my choice and your choice.

9:03 All I have to do is so simple is just do the steps meditate, find the things that I love to do, go in that direction, feel the feeling and stay in that high vibe and believe in myself.

9:18 You know, I have an episode called, follow my list that you should check out.

9:22 It’s really good.

9:23 I’m gonna go enhance it a little bit, but it’s actually really good.

9:26 It was a download that I had another download.

9:29 So let me get back on track here.

9:31 So the question of the day is how, how do I make myself choose discipline?

9:35 Do I allow the pain and suffering to dictate my life and my reality by spiraling down further and further into the depths of hell?

9:43 Or do I remember that it’s all part of the game that I’m playing?

9:47 We weren’t given the rules of the game of life.

9:49 But guess what?

9:50 There are rules to this game?

9:53 You have had them with you your whole life just like I have, I just didn’t remember.

9:59 I mean, I didn’t either.

10:00 Starting to though.

10:01 I definitely felt it as a child.

10:03 I felt there had to be more than what I was experiencing my childhood.

10:08 Like many had some wonderful fun moments, but also had many dark and fearful moments, not saying it was my parents’ fault at all.

10:17 I have another episode about that, like not saying that at all.

10:20 So please don’t take that that way.

10:22 I love my parents very much and they did the best job that they could do.

10:26 But I did experience a lot of trauma as a child that trauma I experienced during my childhood became my operating system for most of the time and most of my life and it actually is still affecting me today.

10:41 I felt so much anger, sadness, fear and was deeply programmed to think.

10:46 I was nothing to think.

10:47 I didn’t matter to think I would never be smart enough or good enough.

10:51 You might have those feelings too my whole life.

10:55 I’ve compared myself to anyone and everyone and everything.

10:59 My mind is such a jerk.

11:03 But it’s true.

11:04 It’s been tormenting me forever.

11:07 My mind and my heart, day after day get tormented.

11:12 I try to put a smile on my face and do the thing called life by pretending that I’m ok.

11:19 But there has always been that f*cking voice in my head telling me over and over and over that you are not enough, you are not as good as the others.

11:32 So don’t even try.

11:34 You don’t f*cking matter.

11:35 So just give up quit and it’s exhausting.

11:39 I’m just like, that is not the truth.

11:43 Ok, that’s bullshit.

11:45 It’s just not right for that to keep coming back into my head, into my mind, into where I can hear it.

11:52 I’m like, stop it already.

11:55 Why do I continue to allow the thoughts to have power over me?

11:58 Why do I believe the story that was passed down to me?

12:02 These are questions I often ask, I allow them because I didn’t know the truth.

12:07 I didn’t know the rules.

12:08 Guess what?

12:09 I’m learning the rules and I’m fighting back.

12:12 I’m fighting my way out of the prison.

12:13 I’m in, I’m learning how to accept all of me and not to think what others might think about me or if I’m good enough or if I’m as successful as others, why does it even matter so much?

12:27 All that matters is that I listen to my heart and my true self.

12:31 I connect to God and then I can tear down the walls that I put up to protect myself from the pain.

12:37 And all I did was keep the pain in.

12:39 You know, I was trying to keep the pain out, but I kept the pain in.

12:43 Isn’t that ironic?

12:45 Isn’t that ironic, don’t you think? When I connect, then I allow the light to take over the dark?

12:51 I know there will be more dark that comes.

12:55 But I also know that I’m connecting to the power within, then the light will always shine brighter.

13:01 The thing is that we have both because we need both to awaken to the truth of who we truly are.

13:07 The wound is the place where light enters you.

13:11 Remi quote, I super love.

13:14 The suffering pushes us to rise up and to be who we came here to be, it pushes us to remember, becoming aware that you can actually break the cycle or curse is key.

13:25 But actually taking the steps to pull yourself out is how you change it all to have it all.

13:30 It’s how you override the old program moving in the direction of what ignites your soul and taking the path that feels really, really good is how you and I can drown out the negative thoughts, flood your mind with what you want to see and become constantly.

13:48 Then you will drown out what has been controlling you.

13:52 Tell the voice that speaks the unwanted thoughts that you are the one in control.

13:58 Now you tell the story that is within your heart, you rewrite it all allow the anger or whatever negative feelings to fuel the fire within this helps me to turn the anger and desires of my heart into passion.

14:15 What angers me ignites me.

14:17 My moments, create my momentum.

14:20 I’m in a bottle, I’m in a bottle.

14:22 I’m like I dream of genie.

14:25 That’d be kind of cool.

14:26 She was so cute.

14:28 Anyway, I’m in a battle with the one who tries to control me but I will f*cking win this battle.

14:35 I am breaking free and I know I will be OK in the end, no matter what this too shall pass, you will find your way just like I am because we ask, we show or see right?

14:47 Ask, ask baby.

14:49 So we’re gonna take our power back by connecting to God.

14:53 We’re gonna visualize, we’re gonna have discipline.

14:56 We’re gonna meditate, we’re gonna create what’s in our heart, in our reality, not what’s in our mind unless it’s your good thoughts, not those negative thoughts, we’re taking our power back and we’re gonna get rid of those thoughts and we’re gonna tell them we’re done with you.

15:14 OK?

15:15 So, audios get out of here, take your power back and let’s get this reality created together by going within healing that inner child and taking our power back.

15:30 Thank you so much for tuning in with me today.

15:32 I hope that this message helped you and I will continue to talk more about compassion and communication, all kinds of good stuff coming up on this next season.

15:42 Thank you so much and I’ll see you next time.

15:45 Thank you for joining me today on You Are the Magic Pill.

15:49 My hope is that you leave this podcast feeling better about yourself, inspired, activated and ready to swallow your fears, to realize your dreams.

15:59 I would be honored if you would leave me a five star review over in iTunes each week.

16:04 I’ll randomly choose one person to win some You Are the Magic Pill swag.

16:08 Make sure you add your name to the review and I’ll reach out to you if you’re the winner, I really appreciate you spending your time with me today.

16:15 Be sure to pop over to youarethemagicpill.com for past episodes and more gifts to help you wake up and realize that you are the magic pill and you can change it all to have it all.

Episode #47: Welcome to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria, thank you so much for joining me. I’m excited because I have Elizabeth Hoekstra on the show and we had a conversation that I think you’re going to really enjoy. A little bit about Elizabeth is that she started off in the entertainment industry and she was a model and she was in music, videos and movies and magazines. That’s so awesome. And she has now the director of operations for the worldwide brand and TV network for bidden knowledge, Inc. She’s also helping to organize and grow for Ben knowledge, Inc. Mainstream, all the hosting, her podcast, Biohack Your Best Life alongside president CEO of forbidden knowledge. Billy Carson, you should go check that out. It’s pretty awesome. And Elizabeth its most recent accomplishments have been writing her first book, The Recipe to Elevated Consciousness, which quickly became a bestseller.

Ready? Let’s go…

SHOWNOTES:

• You know, basically my life, it started out as a little bit traumatic, not consciously though, which is really what messed me up for the rest of my life. So I was adopted. And just that alone really created trauma and issues in my life, but I couldn’t consciously connect those memories with a feeling with an emotion within myself, because I didn’t consciously remember. As a baby, you got taken away, and then, you know, you were monitored. You weren’t really, you know, loved on for the first couple of months. So I had to figure all of this out through my shadow work that wow, I really started out this life in a traumatic way because I started out, you know, having these abandonment issues. (02:30)

• So I was still trying to self-soothe through drugs and alcohol throughout all of this, even though, you know, I was so successful on the outside, like winning awards and living this extravagant career life as a business person. You know, but I was still inwardly, I was hurting really. When I left the real estate industry and joined, I became a president to a mental health gym. That’s really when I dove into biohacking. I had already experimented along my journey with a little bit of biohacking here and there, but I was using it in a negative way. To try to bring my brain back from the parties. After, you know, a whole night of drinking and drugs, I would use bio-hacking tools to sharpen myself back up. (06:05)

• If you’re being chased by a lion, boom, your body will go into fight or flight, you’ll be able to pick up and run fast because the blood is going to your extremities. You know, your pupils dilate, so you can take in more and you’re basically just running away from a threat. The problem is these days is that people are stuck like that, their bodies are stuck in that response. So now it’s impossible to basically heal yourself because your gut completely shuts down when you’re in fight or flight. So if you’re eating and you’re in fight or flight, you’re not absorbing that nutrition, you’re not taking really anything from that meal that you’re eating. You’re not thinking consciously you lose 30% brain capacity when you’re in fight or flight. (13:27)

• You know, you can really tell the people that have done the work, done the deep shadow work. Because they’ll literally come from a place of no judgment. It’s very difficult for me now to really be angry at people because I understand where that comes from, you know, even the trolls and these people, these haters. I just, honestly, I feel kind of bad for them because their pain runs so deep that they have to express it outwardly to other people, and that’s deep pain within itself. Because if you’ve done the work and you’ve addressed your issues, you can’t really spit that negativity upon other things. It’s almost impossible because you don’t have it inside of you. Wayne Dyer says the best, What happens when you squeeze an orange, orange juice comes out, what happens when you squeeze a lemon? Lemon juice comes out. What happens when you squeeze yourself? (20:50)

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Elisabeth Hoekstra’s first career was in the entertainment industry,
where she worked as a model and actor on nationally syndicated television programs, movies, music videos, and magazines. Elisabeth’s evolution as an on-camera talent continued to expand while attending Davenport College for business management and marketing administration. Her current position is Director of Operations for the world-wide brand and TV network, 4biddenknowledge Inc. She is now helping to organize and grow 4biddenknowledge Inc. mainstream, all while hosting her popular podcast
“Bio-Hack Your Best Life” alongside President/CEO of 4biddenknowledge, Billy Carson. Elisabeth’s most recent accomplishments have been writing her first book, “The Recipe to Elevated Consciousness” which quickly became a best seller, as well as receiving a certificate in cell biology – mitochondria from Harvard University.

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Episode #46: Welcome to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria, thank you so much for joining me. Today I am so happy to welcome on the show Jody Colvard. Jody is the CEO of FMG Network and Podcast School. It is because of Jody that I have this podcast and I am excited to share her wisdom on the power of your voice.

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SHOWNOTES:

• First off, I’ve been in this business since… Well, I’ve been on the internet since 1994, and I’ve worked early on creating businesses, so in 2004, I started teaching podcasting, and prior to that, I helped people get into TV shows, radio, things like that, and there was so many people that had something that they desperately wanted to share. But there was such a limited amount of space. When you try to go into television or movies or anything like that, there are not a lot of spots available, it’s like everybody was clamoring to get there. But then when I saw the internet, it’s kind of opened up and there’s this opportunity for everybody to have a place to speak… To share the message. Their truth. So one of the things that I did was I created FMG Radio and Podcasting Network, and that was in 2004, the first time I created it, and started really bringing in people to really hone in what their message was and find that true power within themselves to be able to share that. (02:46)

•   When you think about when you’re speaking to people through your podcast, that’s what you’re doing is like the tonality of your voice, the resonance, how you’re speaking to people, when you have that confidence in your voice. That way when you’re talking to people, they actually are picking up your energy… We’re all intertwined energetically. Everybody in this universe is intertwined, we’re able to be fed information. When Einstein talked about relativity, and he would talk about black holes, a lot of it was a theory before, but now they know it’s true, and then they start looking at electro-magnetics. Electromagnetic waves is what causes that interconnection between all human beings and actually every object, everything in the universe. But what they found is around the edges of the black holes runs this electromagnetic waves, and so it’s interconnected. So, think about how every soul, every being, every plant, everything is connected, throughout the whole universe. (06:39)

• What you’re talking about is emotion, every cell of your body has vibrational energy within the cell, and so when you have things that have happened to you, like trauma, things that traps that emotion into each cell, the vibration of your voice will be different. So once you open up the trauma, that emotion, and release it, your voice will actually change. When I was younger, my oldest son, he passed away, and my voice changed automatic, it just got really deep, like a man. And I’d go to the doctor and they were like, I don’t know what’s wrong with you, my voice was just like a man’s voice. But my emotions, it triggered something in the vibration of my body because when you speak, it comes up your larynx, you have these vocal cords, they vibrate to be able to have the sound come out. So when the vibration of my body changed, the vibration and my vocal cords changed, which then changed my voice. Once I was able to kind of go through the emotions and clear a lot of that out, and my voice came back to normal. (11:17)

•  Because when you’re sitting there thinking, what does this person want to hear? It’s not what you’re saying, it’s the intention behind what you’re saying. So what’s your intention? I think that you need to look at that first. When you start putting your message out there and you have that intention in mind, and you think about these people that you want to connect with, and it’s like, what is it that you want to help transform for them? (16:01)

ABOUT JODY COLVARD:

Jody is the Founder and CEO of FRQNCY Media Group, parent company to FMG Radio, TV, Podcasting and Magazine. She holds the same roles with Podcast School & Women in Podcasting, all are cutting-edge platforms combining creativity, personal empowerment and technology to empower voices, ideas & stories.

She began speaking Internationally in 2004, becoming one of the first Women to teach blogging and podcasting in the US and China. She has shared the stage with many notable speakers such as Michael Beckwith, Barbara De Angelis, Mark Victor Hansen, Jack Canfield and many more.

Jody is a pioneer – an insider’s mentor – in the realms of internet marketing, new media, social networking, and business strategy development. In 2008 she distilled that knowledge into her acclaimed book and training program Be A Show Host: How to Connect Your Dream to The New World of Community, Customers and Continual Profits. This comprehensive media course has been used to teach thousands of students to develop professional, polished, and – best of all – profitable podcasts and radio shows.

Jody has worked with celebrities and charity organizations such as Make a Wish Foundation and The Sole of Africa with Nelson Mandela, Brad Pitt and Sir Richard Branson; and with clients featured on 20/20, Good Morning America, Oprah, and Dr. Phil.

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Episode #45: Welcome to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria, thank you so much for joining me. Today I’m excited because I want to share with you my five ways to shift that sh*t. I originally created this as a free gift for leaving me a five star review on Apple podcast, if you haven’t done that and you feel guided to do that, I would really appreciate it. I decided that I wanted to just share this with you because I think it’s an important message to help you, to maybe have some different ideas or guidance, on how to shift your negative thoughts or shift any kind of thoughts that you’re having that go against where you want your future, or where you want your present moment to be. I’m constantly have to work on shifting my thoughts that come in, because sometimes your thoughts are not your thoughts, although you may think they are, they’re not… They’re your subconscious programming, and we can rewrite that. So, if you’re ready, take a listen and start learning how to shift it and change your reality.

Let’s go…

SHOWNOTES:

•  Number One: You have to actually decide to shift the sh*t right? Enough is enough in the cycle, because if you don’t like where you’re at, then change it. Decide that you’re actually going to take the action to change it… Because if you don’t, then you’re not going to ever change, and that’s just the reality of it. If you can’t make the decision to actually change, then you’re not going to change, and that’s really not what you want. So, dig deep and realize that you want to change, to make the decision.  (02:07) 

•  Number Two: Tell me what you want, what you really, really want. So, you actually need to know at this point. Make a decision, know what you want, and focus on what you want.  That may take a little bit of time to work on yourself to figure out what you really want.  (02:54) 

•  Number Three: Pause, observe and redirect. So if you’re finding yourself trying to focus on what you want, and then you start to become aware like you’re having negative thoughts, or you’re saying you can’t do something, or having negative self-talk, you’re saying something that goes against what you want. To see what you’re wanting to focus on, then pause, stop yourself, observe it, become aware of what you’re saying and doing, and then redirect yourself. Because you know, it’s going to happen, especially in the beginning, you’re going to find yourself drifting to that old programming. But that’s what we’re learning to do, or learning to shift that sh*t, so it doesn’t keep happening.  So, you’re going to pause, observe and redirect. Then you’re going to commit. (03:22) 

•  Number Four:  Committing to daily discipline. To commit to daily discipline, to actually take that step to shift, and that’s where it becomes a habit. All of a sudden, it’s going to shift where you’re having more of what you’re focusing on.  I know you can do that daily discipline, commit to it, to becoming a disciple to yourself, becoming discipline. And form a new habit. (04:17)

•  Number Five:  Stay in the present moment. Be intentional on that. That’s what happens when you pause, you kind of stop yourself and you observe, you actually do take yourself back to the present moment. So just know that you have the power to choose that, and you have the power to choose that now. You can take your power back, and it’s something that you have to do every day.  So, every day, remember that you can do these. Number One – Decide. Number Two – Know. Number Three – Pause. Number Five: Stay Present. Know the direction that you want to take your life and know that you have the power to create your reality. You’ve got this, I believe in you. Now go believe in yourself. (05:07)
 
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Episode #44: Welcome to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria, thank you so much for joining me. Today I am so excited because I’m bringing back my bestie Richele Batt to talk about red flags in dating and relationships. We talk about addressing the issues that you know are there, and then when they come up, seeing what the response from the other person is, and if it gets addressed by them. If they care to change something, or maybe if you’re just not a match, and trusting your intuition, yourself and your gut feeling.

Ready? Listen in…

SHOWNOTES:

•  Yeah, and so it’s about loving yourself enough to know your value and to leave your situation when you know it’s not good for you, or not getting into a situation that you know is a huge red flag. There’s a couple of funny memes that I’ve seen that are hilarious one is perfect for Valentine’s day, because this guy is holding a dozen red flags and she goes, ‘Oh a dozen red flags, I love him so much’, and then there’s another one where he says ‘Good morning beautiful’. And she says, ‘Take me off rotation’.  (8:05)

•  When that happens, I think is a very important to know what to do. So I think a lot of times people don’t do anything because they don’t know what to do, they either cut bait and go or they don’t do anything. So I think the important thing is to tell people what do you do at that point. Well, that’s where communication skills come in, you have to know how to open your mouth and speak. And you know what? It may be a little scary to communicate with someone, especially someone you only just started knowing. I’m like, Listen, first of all, you have to have healthy boundaries. And you have to know what those are. If your boundary is, I need to be respected, like say someone stood you up on a date or something like that. That’s probably a boundary. You carve out your time for that person, they decide the last minute they’re not going or something, and they act like it’s no big deal, that’s a red flag. And it’s something that needs to be addressed now. (12:40)

•  There’s so much integrity in realizing, Okay, we’re not a match. I tell people, ‘You’re not dating to make it a match, you’re dating to see if it is one, and so even when you go through break ups and such, and I’ve had episodes about breakups, sometimes you complete a relationship and it’s about the two people realizing, Okay, this is not working, this is not going to be… We’re not compatible for whatever reason, and sometimes they’re very difficult. But as long as you do look and realize, Okay, there’s lessons to be learned from here in this relationship, and you take those to heart and you go on in the future and say, Okay, now I know what I need and what I want, and hopefully the other person does too, and you help each other grow… What is better than that? I mean, that’s what we all want to do. So you’re not forcing it to be a match… I think some people get in a relationship and think I have to make this work, I have to… I have to… And they’re just like, beating their head against the wall. What’s the point of that?  (19:33)

•   I was married for 20 years and you were married for a long time, we have an our story from it, right? We have our experience from it, so do our spouses are ex’s. They have their story and what they learned from it, neither is wrong or right to be honest. It’s what we both needed. But whenever I was married, my life felt like, my soul that like, I was like dead. So I felt like my life was being sucked out of me, and I don’t blame that on my ex, it’s just the relationship wasn’t meant to continue. He didn’t suck the life out of me, it was the relationship that was no longer serving me…or him. And so I had to make the decision, I had to be strong enough and listen to that gut feeling, listen to my inner voice saying, ‘You are not supposed to be here anymore, get out. (22:44)

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Episode 43: Welcome back to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria. I’m so excited that you’re here with me today as I share part 2 of my series interviewing my long time friend Dustin Strong, talking about digestion and the food we eat. Dustin is a Chief Clinician and Owner of Strong on Health, a private holistic health and wellness center in the Dallas/Fort Worth, TX. Ready? Listen in…

SHOWNOTES:

•  Now, when we get into things like depression, it’s helpful to go and look at the biggest, most common things that are happening in our country and the way that people are struggling with digesting protein… I know that sounds weird to go, Wait a minute, you talk about the depression and you’re taking about digesting proteins, but why it’s important is all of those happy hormones that all the medications they’re trying to act upon? They’re trying to act upon serotonin, trying to act upon dopamine, they’re trying to act upon norepinephrine, and they’re trying to keep these happy hormones artificially high in the brain. Well, one of the questions for me, to them is, Why do we need to artificially keep them? Hey, why don’t you have an ample amount of those in the first place? And that’s why people need to understand that those are derived from essential amino acids. (03:07)

•  Okay, so how do you fix it is your question. There’s different tools out there to do that, a lot of it is lifestyle changes, eating smaller amounts, making sure, of course, you’re chewing your food, really chew your food, not drinking too much water with your meal, because that will dilute the stomach acid, making sure that you have enough zinc, because zinc is required for stomach acid production, so you can do a zinc test… In our clinic, we have a taste test, so you can take something zinc sulfate and you hold it in your mouth, and what you taste kind of helps determine whether you have appropriate levels of zinc in your body. Yeah, and fasting is actually a really good way to help heal your digestive system as well, because we’re constantly… We have this unconscious faith that anything we put into our mouth is just going to be magically turned into all the nutrients that we need to sustain life, and it doesn’t work that way. (09:04)

•  It’s a limiting belief, and that happens. And it happens in all kinds of situations, right? Like a kid tries to do something nice for their parent and the parent was in a bad mood that day, and when they made this great gift and they present it to the parent… The parent was like, Whatever, I don’t want that right now. That left an impression on that kid, that giving gifts to people is bad, right? So, now we’ve got to figure out, Wait a minute, that was just a one tiny little situation, but it impacted you because you were young and impressionable, now we’re going to balance it out. (18:57)

•  One of my healthcare heroes always says that justice and health includes access to and knowledge of all the options, and I don’t think number one, that people definitely have the knowledge of the options, and that’s my mission to get out there and then they access… Not just access and the means of they have McDonalds, but then there’s also a store right there next to it that has a healthy option, but access through their community. If their community is setting up mental barriers to keep them from having access to a belief that’s gonna get them healthier. We have a situation where we have more drive-through restaurants and fasted restaurants than we know what to do with. Exactly. So, I guess we just have to keep sharing our message and be bringing education and awareness.  (23:22)

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Dustin Strong is the Chief Clinician and Owner of Strong on Health, a private holistic health and wellness center in the Dallas/Fort Worth, TX metro area. He specializes in applied clinical nutrition, holistic nutrition, and clinical consultation for other healthcare providers. Mr. Strong is an accomplished speaker and enthusiastic educator with monthly hands-on workshops with practitioners and is a regular continuing education presenter and featured expert in multiple podcasts, videos, and publications. As a holistic healthcare practitioner for nearly a decade, he is passionate about helping clients who have not had complete success with traditional healthcare methods, believing that being healthy requires a total approach, taking into consideration equally nutrition, physical exercise, spiritual balance, and personal motivation. He has been recognized as a Healthcare Hero by the Fort Worth Business Press and a Hidden Gem by Voyage Dallas Magazine. Dustin is a graduate of the University of Wisconsin-Madison, a Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and an Applied Clinical Nutritionist, certified by Standard Process and Parker University.
 
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Episode 42: Welcome back to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria. I’m so excited that you’re here with me today as I share part 1 of my 2 part series interviewing my long time friend Dustin Strong, a Chief Clinician and Owner of Strong on Health, a private holistic health and wellness center in the Dallas/Fort Worth, TX.

Listen in…

SHOWNOTES:

•  You were talking about love before we jump on and recorded, and I was thinking about that, the fact that… What I love about it is when you love something or some person, you benefit from it because you get to feel the love, right? That’s sure. They might get it, they might be benefiting from it, but because you’re putting yourself in that position where you’re getting to feel it, you’re winning already. That’s the best thing about love…I agree, love is a very good thing to feel. (04:07)

•  When you start thinking about what you were and you see it from a fresh perspective, it’s so hard to look back because you want to help that person you know, because you  know what you know now, and you think, Oh man, they struggled through so many things and yes, it was a period of my life. I was transitioning, I think, between elementary school and middle school, and I gained a ton of weight over the course of a winter, eating a lot of sugar, and I didn’t even realize. I guess it hadn’t happened until I went back to school and we were in a bit of a gym class situation where we had to run down to the certain pole and run back and remember running and being passed by who I thought was the kid who was overweight in class, and he passed me like I was sitting still. And then it was just this big moment where I kind of looked down and realized that I was the big kid, I was the fat kid in school. (06:05)

•  The interesting thing about nutrition in general is it’s a young science, so we’re still kind of discovering and understanding as we go, all these pieces, and I’m always trying to distill things down to irrefutable facts, because it’s one thing to know it for yourself, to have that experience and know that sugar is no longer a part of my life because it doesn’t do anything for me. It may do a small thing for me, but the cost to me is so much greater than the benefit. But to help somebody else understand that’s the journey of that, that’s so hard sometimes because you have to understand where somebody’s coming from, you have to figure out why would they be interested in hearing this in the first place, what do they want to solve? How can I communicate this to them? And so I find this with all the different things, every new little pearl, every new little secret that I find I want to share with people. (10:50)

•  Here’s where I always want  to make a point about placebo, if you can get some placebo effect in line with something that’s truly healing, somebody will do it, right? Why wouldn’t you use that power… We don’t want to think, Oh, it’s just a placebo? Well, yeah, it is, but it works. So that’s what I love about nutrition and education, so when I found out that, there’s a Dr. Walsh, and in his books here behind me on the wall, because I give it to almost anybody who has depression. He looked at this for 35 years, he looked at 30,000 different individuals who suffered from depression and anxiety, and he looked at millions of labs, and by far, he said, the most common biochemical problem we found is a zinc deficiency, so who would think?  No one would think, Oh, I’m depressed, maybe I need more zinc. (12:21)

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Dustin Strong is the Chief Clinician and Owner of Strong on Health, a private holistic health and wellness center in the Dallas/Fort Worth, TX metro area. He specializes in applied clinical nutrition, holistic nutrition, and clinical consultation for other healthcare providers. Mr. Strong is an accomplished speaker and enthusiastic educator with monthly hands-on workshops with practitioners and is a regular continuing education presenter and featured expert in multiple podcasts, videos, and publications. As a holistic healthcare practitioner for nearly a decade, he is passionate about helping clients who have not had complete success with traditional healthcare methods, believing that being healthy requires a total approach, taking into consideration equally nutrition, physical exercise, spiritual balance, and personal motivation. He has been recognized as a Healthcare Hero by the Fort Worth Business Press and a Hidden Gem by Voyage Dallas Magazine. Dustin is a graduate of the University of Wisconsin-Madison, a Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and an Applied Clinical Nutritionist, certified by Standard Process and Parker University.
 
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Episode 41: Welcome back to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria. I’m so excited that you’re here with me today as I welcome back my dear friend Stasia Bliss to help us welcome in 2022 as our authentic selves.

Ready? Let’s go…

SHOWNOTES:

•  And I think it’s part of the process too. We have to learn to identify ourselves in our environment, but then as we grow up, we start to realize a lot of those programming, they aren’t what we were truly brought here to express, so we do this process of peeling a lot of that off to reveal who we really are. Yeah, and I think that that’s really cool because that is what we’re here to do is just to discover that truth. But some people never do. And I think that that’s why you and I are here to help people awaken to the truth.  (02:14)

•  If you did that in your career and in your relationship and in your personal growth, how does that feel? Yeah, I think that that is a lot to process because you can look at your last year and have a lot of regrets and hate yourself, and that’s not good. But maybe just look back at it and be like, What could I do now? That would make fulfillment better. But like you said, Love what you already did, love the whole last year, and just know that this year is going to be just another part of your development, opening up and flowering. Like you said, and discovering that authentic self.  (06:26)

•  And I guess for some people, maybe they just want to keep doing the same thing every day, all day, and maybe that’s what their mission is, to do in their experience. But then for the other people that are having a longing, they really seek more and desire more. Yeah, mix it up a little bit. I started doing that more last year, and it does really make a difference, you’re like, Oh, I didn’t even know I’d like to do that, and… Oh wow, I didn’t even know that existed. That reminds me of what you focus on, you really do see, it’s so cool because that can be with everything. Definitely, and some people really do love where they’re at, people are really living with the thing they have set up, and I have all the honor in the world for that, that’s a beautiful place to be in. And for some people, it lasts a really long time, and some people, that’s a fleeting experience. And so I think that’s a beautiful thing to cherish too, but yeah, if you are on a journey of, Hey, I want to do something different, or I need some change in my life or I have been in repeating patterns, there’s just a lot out there. Like I said, just bring the curiosity along and go on a journey of synchronicity.  (09:50)

•  If one thing’s going to go up, something else is going to go down. So to prepare for that, by being okay with those helpless moments for a minute and trying to reap their beauty too. Exactly, yeah, because when I say no pain, no gain, and you really do fall to your knees to rise back up, right? And so I totally agree with that. You got to kinda break that all down and get pushed, and then rise up again, and then maybe fall down again and rise up because your just learning to walk again, right? Well, my favorite thing that I feel that people don’t realize in this world, you and I have talked about this, is that the heart muscle is just like any muscle, if we want to grow it strong, we have to be willing to do the exercises of love and expansion, and also the pain of the heartbreak. That’s just like the pain of… If you’re doing weights every day, you actually rip those muscles in order to grow them, in order to make them stronger and longer, and by using our heart muscle in our life and really putting our hearts into what we do, whether it’s a person in a relationship or a job, or our workout. And if something fails, or we get hurt, that’s also part of the growth, we actually are sort of wanting to grow in that way, and I know that’s a tricky one for some people, like I don’t want a heartache, but in a way we do.  (13:34)

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Episode 40: Welcome back to You Are the Magic Pill, I’m your host Victoria. Happy New Year to you! I hope you’re excited for all the great and wonderful things that are going to unfold into your life this year. Today I want to talk to you about finding the real you by tapping into your true heart’s desire and believing that you can actually get to that place you want to be. But first, you have to unlearn all of the things that you were taught, that’s why it’s so important to go down the path of self-discovery and not just accepting who you are, but who you think you are. The cool thing is that thoughts and beliefs matter because they create matter and that creates your reality.

Ready to go down the rabbit hole? Let’s go…

SHOWNOTES:

•  I mean, if you go around eating crap food and junk food and foods that aren’t very nourishing to your body, then you do gain weight. You become how you feel, you become what you’re eating… I say how you feel, because maybe you don’t feel that great about yourself, so you’re eating things that aren’t so great for you. Your choices that you make outwardly reflect how you feel about yourself inwardly. So mind yourself, be careful what you eat. Obviously, we all know that. Why don’t we make choices to feel like crap? Because we don’t feel good, right? So what do you need to do? You need to work on yourself, you need to start finding ways that you feel good about yourself, find ways that you can love yourself. And the more you love yourself, the more you’re going to become aware of taking care of yourself. (03:34) 

•   So we get to choose, you get to choose, I get to choose what we see, because guess what? The power is within you to decide, you can change it all, to have it all. And what I always like to talk about too is that ignorance is not bliss, and knowledge is power. Because whenever you are becoming aware, that’s key, that’s key to waking up to find that power within. But if you don’t decide to become disciplined to discover yourself, then you’re just going to stay in the same spot that you are in right now. And if you’re in a good spot, that’s awesome, but you can always rise higher, right? We’re here to just keep a ascending, to keep rising up, keep it coming, our best version. And everything that we go through each day that can ignite us, can shift us, can take us down that path to become that true, wonderful higher person. (06:00) 

•  We were not taught this, we were not taught this in school as children. And now a lot of people are discovering this truth, and I think that’s super cool that we’re living in this time where people are realizing that we’re creating all this stuff, we’re creating all this chaos too, because we have chaos within us. And also to push us to wake up, to awaken to the truth. So, the thing is that we can all change everything together, if we would just realize that it all comes from within and that what we imagine creates the images in our actual world that we’re in right now together. So if we can imagine what we truly want, know what’s in our heart, tap into what’s in your true hearts desire, connect to God, connect to source, feel that, know it, believe it, connect those two. Then we are going to project it into our reality together. (09:53) 

•  Let go of that old programming sh*t, because it’s just not who you’re meant to be. If you’re suffering, if you’re not living your true purpose, if you’re not enjoying the moment, if you’re not in the now, if you’re not doing any of that stuff and you don’t know what you’re capable of, please go down the path of self-discovery, Ask and you shall receive, right? Ask for guidance, ask for doors to be open, ask to show you the way. Okay, you will be guided. Believe and let go and ask and receive, and let’s change it all to have it all. (11:26) 

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